How to Have Loving Relationships

How to Have Loving Relationships


Loving Older Couple

Loving Older Couple

Last month I had the privilege of spending time with two people I love very much. The couple loved each other very much too. The problem was that communication had broken down between the two of them so far, and resentment had piled up so high, that they had forgotten how much they loved each other.


I listened to the complaints of each of them individually to understand their point of view. Then one morning the following inspired words came to me. I shared them with the couple and laughter, a sense of humor and happiness replaced the arrows of bitterness that had been flying between them.

Here are the inspired words:


  • Before you say anything think:

Is it loving?
Is it Kind?
Is it Necessary?


  • Look at your partner when he/she is speaking to you. Maintain eye contact.


  • Compliment your partner three times a day. (We had a lot of fun with this).


  • Tell your partner you love her at least twice a day. (Enjoy the counting).


  • Perform loving acts as often as you can. If you are a man open the car door for your partner.


  • Do nurturing acts, such as bringing a cup or tea or a plate of cut fruit to your partner.


  • If you are a woman offer to pay for the meal when you eat out every once in a while. Take turns being the treated and the the one who treats.


  • Remember above all that beyond being a man or a woman, your partner is a human being and wants more than anything else:

to feel loved,
to feel nurtured,
to feel special,
to feel respected,
to be seen and to be valued.


  • Ignore the flaws you perceive in your partner. Do not mention them or draw attention to them. None of us is perfect. If you want to strive for perfection yourself—then ignore the imperfections of others—that is your perfection.


  • Practice the Golden Rule: Do unto others as you would have others do unto you. Before you say or do anything make sure it passes the Golden Rule.


  • Level with your partner. If you want or need something, speak your truth in a loving manner, and be ready to listen to your partner’s truth. This is loving communication. Loving and open communication is the glue that holds a marriage or relationship together.


  • Remember the “Self” or “I” sense in yourself is exactly identical to the “Self” or “I” sense in your partner and every being on this planet. That “Self” or “I” is the indwelling God in all of us. That beingness, which we all share connects all of us. You and your partner are not two individual people. In the ultimate sense you are One. So show your partner the same love you feel for yourself. You are a divine being and so is he/she.


  • If you have nothing to say, remain silent.


What does this have to do with homeopathy?


Homeopathy is about improving our health. Having healthy relationships is central to feeling well. Improving the relationships we have with people removes the obstacle to cure of unhappiness, and spreads light and goodness to those we come in contact with.


May all beings be happy.


In love and service,


Deborah Olenev CCH RSHom (NA)


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  1. Dear Dr. Bakshi,
    Thank you for introducing yourself. I have added your name to my newsletter list, so that you will receive future newsletters from me.

    Here is a link to a website that has information about Homeopathy Awareness Week.

    I wish you all the best and great success with your homeopathic practice.

    In love and service,

    Deborah Olenev CCH RSHom (NA)

    • Dr.Dipankar Bakshi on April 16, 2018 at 5:32 am

    Respected Madam DEBORAH OLENEV , I got your Email address while searching the Website of California Homeopathic Medical Society just now and so I am writing you now.I am Dr. Dipankar Bakshi, BHMS, a Pure Hahnemannian Homeopathic Medical Doctor from the City of Kolkata, India engaged in Private Practices for quite a few years now after passing out from the University of Calcutta as a Homeopathic Medical Graduate . I want to maintain a regular contact with you for exchanging of latest research and developmental news and Views from the World of Homeopathy. Please send me some information about the World Homeopathy Awareness Week 2018 which ends on 16th. April. If you have any Newsletter , then it may kindly be sent to my Email ( address.Awaiting a quick reply from you.
    Warm regards and Best wishes ,
    Dr. DipankarBakshi, Kolkata, INDIA.

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